Faithful, sensitive, forgiving: overthinkers like me make the best partners | Polly Hudson

2026-03-29 - 04:19

Yes, we stay awake all night, worrying about things that everyone else has already forgotten. But at least we’re making an effort It takes a certain kind of bravery to speak out on behalf of a much-maligned group, so thank you, Mark Travers, PhD. This American psychologist has publicly detailed three reasons overthinkers make great partners. Finally, some justice for those of us whose brains don’t have an off switch, when we usually get such a bad rap (which we then lie awake at night endlessly ruminating on). To us, overthinking isn’t even the correct term – it’s just thinking. Calling it overthinking suggests there are underthinkers, who must be a happy bunch, or perfect-level thinkers, who probably live by the Eleanor Roosevelt/Kung Fu Panda quote: “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift – that’s why it is called the present.” An overthinker would hear that and panic, clearly, because were we meant to buy a present too? Is it going to be awkward now? Continue reading...